resources for every stage of your journey
These are some of the core building blocks that have cultivated our transformation.
If you don't see something on this list that you've seen recommended everywhere else, you can bet it's intentional on our part. This is the filter we use to decide what to recommend:
- Does it loosen white people from the patterns that keep racism intact?
- Does it heal the particular wound carried by white people?
- Does it cultivate the environment and conditions for connection?
- Does it build capacity in white people to partner with the targets of racism?
- Does it bring us closer to the kind of world we all long for?
If not, it doesn't make the list. We admit this is truly subjective.
0-5 years
cultivate awareness & shift beliefs
Begin to see the illusion
Examine your story
...and follow the lead of those who are
Learn about the time before we arrived
...and the African diaspora
Become aware of backroom deals
...and what they mean to us today
Listen to stories like this, this, this, & this
Re-learn US History here & here
Don't look away and make space to grieve
Prepare to talk with white kids here & here
Then play with flashcards at dinner
...and read this, this, this, and this together
Learn the legacy of white antiracism
...Anne, George, Angelina, and more!
Make a difference with those around you
Listen while you clean, exercise, or travel
Finally, a balm for, "What can I do?"
5-15 years
deepen, heal, and become more effective
Listening is more than you think
Cultivate your ability to feel
What life-affirming needs do you have?
...notice how needs point to what's missing
We don't know but think we do
You're going to have to heal
Not sure why white people need to heal?
Repair more to harm less
"Work ethic eliminates fear"
Practice daily
Get your low-stakes practice in
Examine your beliefs often
Give up "privilege" once and for all
Get curious about those you've given up on
Do what's necessary for real change
Remember that everyone can change
Gather with white people
Build transformative alliances
15+ years
cultivate others & co-create a just future
No strangers, no enemies, no experts
Learn to love white people
Rigorously practice healing
Stay put with one another
Keep re-thinking
Strengthen relating patterns
Stem the tide of de-indigenization
Allow fungi to teach about connection
Go inward (again)
Start a community of practice
Reclaim conflict as communal gold
Remember that words create worlds
Take care of each other
Be ready with an answer
Practice undeserved forgiveness
0-5 years
cultivate awareness & shift beliefs
Begin to see the illusion
Examine your story
...and follow the lead of those who are
Learn about the time before we arrived
...and the African diaspora
Become aware of backroom deals
...and what they mean to us today
Listen to stories like this, this, this, & this
Re-learn US History here & here
Don't look away and make space to grieve
Prepare to talk with white kids here & here
Then play with flashcards at dinner
...and read this, this, this, and this together
Learn the legacy of white antiracism
...Anne, George, Angelina, and more!
Make a difference with those around you
Listen while you clean, exercise, or travel
Finally, a balm for, "What can I do?"
5-15 years
deepen, heal, and become more effective
Listening is more than you think
Cultivate your ability to feel
What life-affirming needs do you have?
...notice how needs point to what's missing
We don't know but think we do
You're going to have to heal
Not sure why white people need to heal?
Repair more to harm less
"Work ethic eliminates fear"
Practice daily
Get your low-stakes practice in
Examine your beliefs often
Give up "privilege" once and for all
Get curious about those you've given up on
Do what's necessary for real change
Remember that everyone can change
Gather with white people
Build transformative alliances
15+ years
cultivate others & co-create a just future
No strangers, no enemies, no experts
Learn to love white people
Rigorously practice healing
Stay put with one another
Keep re-thinking
Strengthen relating patterns
Stem the tide of de-indigenization
Allow fungi to teach about connection
Go inward (again)
Start a community of practice
Reclaim conflict as communal gold
Remember that words create worlds
Take care of each other
Be ready with an answer
Practice undeserved forgiveness
0-5 years
cultivate awareness & shift beliefs
Begin to see the illusion
Examine your story
...and follow the lead of those who are
Learn about the time before we arrived
...and the African diaspora
Become aware of backroom deals
...and what they mean to us today
Listen to stories like this, this, this, & this
Re-learn US History here & here
Don't look away and make space to grieve
Then play with flashcards at dinner
...and read this, this, this, and this together
Learn the legacy of white antiracism
...Anne, George, Angelina, and more!
Make a difference with those around you
Listen while you clean, exercise, or travel
Finally, a balm for, "What can I do?"
5-15 years
deepen, heal, and become more effective
Listening is more than you think
Cultivate your ability to feel
What life-affirming needs do you have?
...notice how needs show what's missing
We don't know but think we do
You're going to have to heal
Not sure why white people need to heal?
Repair more to harm less
"Work ethic eliminates fear"
Practice daily
Get your low-stakes practice in
Examine your beliefs often
Give up "privilege" once and for all
Be curious about who you've given up on
Do what's necessary for real change
Remember that everyone can change
Gather with white people
Build transformative alliances
15+ years
cultivate others & co-create a just future
No strangers, no enemies, no experts
Learn to love white people
Rigorously practice healing
Stay put with one another
Keep re-thinking
Strengthen relating patterns
Stem the tide of de-indigenization
Allow fungi to teach about connection
Go inward (again)
Start a community of practice
Reclaim conflict as communal gold
Remember that words create worlds
Take care of each other
Be ready with an answer
Practice undeserved forgiveness
We acknowledge the Cascades, Cowlitz, Grand Ronde, and Siletz people as the stewards of our area. Thank you for your leadership.
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