0-5 years

cultivate awareness & shift beliefs

Begin to see the illusion

Examine your story

...and follow the lead of those who are

Learn about the time before we arrived

...and the African diaspora

Become aware of backroom deals

...and what they mean to us today

Listen to stories like this, this, this, & this

Re-learn US History here & here

Don't look away and make space to grieve

Prepare to talk with white kids here & here

Then play with flashcards at dinner

...and read this, this, this, and this together

Learn the legacy of white antiracism

...Anne, George, Angelina, and more!

Make a difference with those around you

Listen while you clean, exercise, or travel

Finally, a balm for, "What can I do?"

5-15 years

deepen, heal, and become more effective

Listening is more than you think

Cultivate your ability to feel

What life-affirming needs do you have?

...notice how needs point to what's missing

We don't know but think we do

You're going to have to heal

Not sure why white people need to heal?

Repair more to harm less

"Work ethic eliminates fear"

Practice daily

Get your low-stakes practice in

Examine your beliefs often

Give up "privilege" once and for all

Get curious about those you've given up on

Do what's necessary for real change

Remember that everyone can change

Gather with white people

Build transformative alliances

15+ years

cultivate others & co-create a just future

No strangers, no enemies, no experts

Learn to love white people

Rigorously practice healing

Stay put with one another

Keep re-thinking

Strengthen relating patterns

Stem the tide of de-indigenization

Allow fungi to teach about connection

Go inward (again)

Start a community of practice

Reclaim conflict as communal gold

Remember that words create worlds

Take care of each other

Rest

Be ready with an answer

Use money as medicine

Practice undeserved forgiveness

Play more, laugh often, dance together