You're seconds away from an experience that has helped people like you become who they have always wanted to be
You're seconds away from an experience that has helped people like you become who they have always wanted to be
raise your hand if any of this sounds familiar...
You are committed to racial liberation and get confused by all of the different advice about what that means for you as a white person...
You've spent countless hours learning about racism and trying to be a better person, yet you still feel frustrated and hopeless about our future...
Your relationships with the targets of racism, and white people alike, aren't going as well as you'd like, and you're out of ideas for how to make a difference...
You're struggling to stay on top of the seemingly endless list of what white people should be doing and find yourself checking out more and more...
Welcome, neighbor! We've been there too!
Which is why WE BUILT THIS PLACE to explore...
What will it take to loosen the dominating patterns that keep racism alive, despite our best efforts?
Who would we become if we gathered and stayed put with fellow white people long enough to end racism?
How can we more authentically partner with the targets of racism to co-create a world where all living beings can flourish?
A community of practice for white people committed to ending racism
Welcome, neighbor. We're so glad you've begun your liberation journey. The first few years can be a whirlwind of learning and unlearning, and it can feel confusing and overwhelming. No need to pretend, prove, or perform - we've got you!
After a few years, it's common to lose the humility you felt when everything was new. The key is strengthening relating patterns and loosening the dominating patterns that keep racism intact. For example, it's still superiority to think we are better than every other white person.
We have no need for experts, but we do need people who are effective at captivating hearts and changing minds until our entire community is committed to ending racism - who else can you help bring along?
Welcome, neighbor. We're so glad you've begun your liberation journey. The first few years can be a whirlwind of learning and unlearning, and it can feel confusing and overwhelming. No need to pretend, prove, or perform - we've got you!
After a few years, it's common to lose the humility you felt when everything was new. The key is strengthening relating patterns and loosening the dominating patterns that keep racism intact. For example, it's still superiority to think we are better than every other white person.
We have no need for experts, but we do need people who are effective at captivating hearts and changing minds until our entire community is committed to ending racism - who else can you help bring along?
Welcome, neighbor. We're so glad you've begun your liberation journey. The first few years can be a whirlwind of learning and unlearning, and it can feel confusing and overwhelming. No need to pretend, prove, or perform - we've got you!
After a few years, it's common to lose the humility you felt when everything was new. The key is strengthening relating patterns and loosening the dominating patterns that keep racism intact. For example, it's still superiority to think we are better than every other white person.
We have no need for experts, but we do need people who are effective at captivating hearts and changing minds until our entire community is committed to ending racism - who else can you help bring along?
When I joined, I was embraced with kindness and candor - helping me ask questions and embrace discomfort as a catalyst for learning. Together, we practiced crucial conversations about race, which not only eased these discussions outside the group but also nurtured curiosity and willingness.
Before learning with you, I was moving through the world with no real understanding of my role in white supremacy. Now I know it's within me to make a difference, and I am taking action to eliminate racist practices within myself and my profession.
Social justice work can feel hopeless and heavy at times, yet this community has been a soft place to land and an ongoing source of support and information. I love knowing who to call to grieve, to create, and to call into action.
In the past three years, I have experienced more healing than I thought possible. I now have vulnerable, loving, and compassionate relationships with white-bodied folx who see the possibilities and work toward a liberated future together.
When you join the Lab, you are fully protected by our 100% Satisfaction Guarantee. If you decide you want to cancel within 30 days, let us know, and we'll send you a prompt refund.
The Lab is NOT for everyone, and truth be told, we'd prefer to help you figure out if it's not right for you BEFORE you join rather than waste your time. So, let's cut to the chase...
who the lab is for
who the lab may not be for
It might seem strange, us trying to talk you OUT of becoming a member - but if the Lab is not the right fit, then neither of us benefits. We care about you - and that all starts by making sure the Lab is right for you before you join.
All of the basics. Nothing more.
A community of practice for white-bodied people who are committed to ending racism.
Get personal responses to your questions & the support you need when you need it.
You decide what to pay when you enroll. Try to pick a monthly rate that delights you.
Add Gathering to take what you are learning and start a group with people you know.
Dive straight into the neighbor site content or show up for live calls - or both. You decide.
The doors to The Lab are closed. If you'd like, join our waitlist below.
All of the basics. Nothing more.
A community of practice for white-bodied people who are committed to ending racism.
You decide what to pay when you enroll. Try to pick a monthly rate that delights you.
Dive straight into the neighbor site content or show up for live calls - or both. You decide.
Get personal responses to your questions & the support you need when you need it.
Add Gathering to take what you are learning and start a group with people you know.
The doors to The Lab are closed. If you'd like, join our waitlist below.
Made a racist mistake? Try out our tested, humanizing, no-shame, no-blame accountability model.
Made a racist mistake? Try out our tested, humanizing, no-shame, no-blame accountability model.
There are times we use the term "white-bodied" as a way to express that 1) the experience we are having as people who are raced as white is a bodily one (thank you Resmaa Menakem); and 2) within our community, not everyone identifies as white. There's more to unpack here than can be done in an FAQ, and we're committed to those conversations in and outside of The Lab.
Many times when white people wonder, "Who will be there?" we're using it as a metric for determining if a group is as evolved as we believe ourselves to be. But what we are really saying is that we don't want to feel the frustration, terror, anger, and inadequacy that come when we face the fact that, despite our best efforts, racism is still present in our community. This is avoidance and superiority masked in righteousness, and it's not only misguided, it's destructive. If you are far along on your journey, then model being effective at capturing the hearts and changing the minds of people who are not as far along as you are.
And may we always remember that every space is an opportunity to practice and grow.
We are experimenting with what it looks like to run a business as a gift economy within a capitalist society. The Lab is our gift to the world, and we're so excited about it. Now it's your part - pick a monthly rate that delights you. You can change it or cancel anytime.
Absolutely. All of our practices work for any stage of the journey because they do what fuel does for a car; propel you forward. No matter how old or fancy your car is, you still need fuel. The same is true for your liberation journey.
Inside The Lab, you'll find many options for different learning preferences, and we are a lab, which means that we are constantly experimenting with ideas that get us closer to our goal of ending racism.
You get access to everything already inside the Lab straight away! No waiting for content to be released to you, so go ahead and start making use of all of the goodies right away. We regularly update and add new material, too - so your content library will continue growing.
To start, we'll have 3 live calls each month:
WEEK 1: CONNECT + HEAL. This call is a casual potluck in our neighborhood. Bring your food, pets, and full self as we connect with fellow lab members. We'll play games, get to know each other, tell stories, share important life moments, and at some point - we'll squirrel away in break-out rooms to share more deeply and practice healing. We believe relationships are the center of liberation, so we begin here each month.
WEEK 2: EXPERIMENT. This call is our lab within our lab. You'll bring your ideas, hypothesis, and willingness to give it a go, and we'll do the same. This isn't us talking at you like we are experts (hint: we're not). We expect the unexpected, which may feel exhilarating at times and downright tough at others. But stay put with each other in a posture of curiosity and openness and, no doubt, incredible things will happen.
WEEK 3: HUDDLE. This call stretches us in two important ways: ask for help and be a contribution. Both are essential skills in a liberation journey. The fact that many of us are fearful of making a mistake says a lot about how hooked we are to tactics that separate and keep us competing with each other, even in liberation spaces. We want so much more and bet you do too.
WEEK 4: NO CALL. This is a moment to rest and recharge.
These calls have no standard days/times to accommodate multiple schedules. For example: CONNECT + HEAL could happen on a weeknight evening, weekend brunch, or weekday lunch. We'll schedule months in advance so you can add the sessions you want to attend to your calendar.
Throughout the year, there will be other one-off calls, challenges, and more...but we don't know what those will look like yet - after all, we're a lab.
Yes - but we're still working out how. The beta community will help us decide between several options we have, but we promise you there will be ways to get your questions answered.
Obviously, we'd love all of our members to stick around forever, but we know that isn't likely to happen. Here's what we've been noodling on, though...
Because white people in America no longer live in our motherland, we carry the wound of uprootedness, and that causes us to want to leave people and places often. When you learn to see yourself as a tree that will bear the most fruit when its roots are deep, stable, and nourishing - it helps us to reconsider the urge to move on in search of something better. What would happen if we co-create spaces where we could stay for 10, 20, 30, or 50 years? How is our constant moving and starting over with a new group of people making it more difficult to end racism? When the urge to move on shows up, will you do us a favor? Will you make sure you are rooted somewhere? We all need places we can stay put for decades to come.
We're not currently offering a trial; however, you can get a good feel for what membership is and how much it offers by reading this page entirely. Leading up to the beta launch, we'll circle back and record a behind-the-scenes video to show you more.
If you still have questions after watching, email us at [email protected], and we'll get back to you!
We acknowledge the Cascades, Cowlitz, Grand Ronde, and Siletz people as the stewards of our area. Thank you for your leadership.
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